I thoroughly enjoy buying groceries. And today is pay day, folks. The excitement is real.

You knooow…Sometimes I want to unfollow people I’ve liked. Not to be mean, but so I don’t think about them as much. So I’m not reminded of rejection or failed relationships. With my last break up, I blocked him, his family and his friends from every social network I was a part of…it helped a little. I still thought about him, but a least he wasn’t popping up on my dash.

And I’m known to hoard memories. I don’t like to get rid of things that made me happy at one point. Deleting pictures, old text messages, poems, DMs, emails, Facebook chats…takes me forever to do. 

I even keep bad memories for some reason. I kept an text conversation that turned to an argument just to look back and remind myself why I shouldn’t talk to him. But I learned when people show their true colors, rather they’re mad, drunk or whatever, to be a bigger person and learn t walk away. That is when I let my inner hoarder go.

browngirlbigdreams:

Dear Phylicia,

Romantic involvement distracts you and can blind you to what’s really in front of you. And what really is in front of you? You are. You don’t even know yourself yet. You think you know and you want to assert that you do, now that you’re a certain age, but you don’t. What’s in front of you is a whole world of experiences beyond your imagination. Put yourself, and your growth and development, first. There are long-term repercussions to what you’re doing now. Everything you do, every thought you have, every word you say creates a memory that you will hold in your body. It’s imprinted on you and affects you in subtle ways—ways you are not always aware of. With that in mind, be very conscious and selective.

With high hopes for you,

Phylicia